AO: _3rd-f-leadership
Q: Posse
PAX: Magnolia, Endo, C3P0, Posse
FNGs: None
COUNT: 4
– Sex – Orgasmic Altruism (great name for next AO)
– How you do life is how you do sex. How you do sex is how you do life.
– 4 ways we struggle to have joyful sex of younger days
– Time Scarcity
– No space in life; no time left at the end of the day
– Minds never stop moving; wired & tired
– Kills sex drive
– Unrevealed Resentment
– Still 50/50? Likely lots of scorekeeping going on
– Likely never revealed or discussed with partner
– Resolving resentment opens up for greater intimacy
– Power Struggle
– More sex partner is frustrated & feels rejected
– Less sex partner feels guilted & is angry
– SDD – Sexual Desire Discrepancy
– More sex = initiator
– Less sex = gatekeeper
– Both roles hold power
– Mismatched Expectations
– Common to have different sexual expectations
– Not discussing the differences is what drives separation
– Without deep emotional connection, there’s an unconscious urge to avoid getting close enough for sex
– Being in bed together, but on devices is a sign:point_up_2:
– Sex is a natural expression of love & connection
– Find your way back (to her heart)
– Solve life-related problems
– See all previous chapters
– Date nights
– Unstructured time alone
– Our culture prioritizes completion over connection
– Reveal & request all those resentments
– “Which 80/80 practice would do the most to improve our sex life?”
– Solve sex-related problems
– Create structure to balance the power struggle
– Schedule sex
– 7 day sex challenge
– Orgasmic altruism – meeting the sexual energy of your partner
– Go from “No” to a sex plan
– Reveal unexpressed expectations
– Otherwise, ruptures widen
Magnolia on Q next week for the Reluctant Partner
