[_3rd-f-leadership] 80/80 Marriage: Ch. 3 & 4

AO: _3rd-f-leadership
Q: Posse
PAX: Magnolia, Hatchet, Cutlet, Fuse Box, Premature, C3P0, Posse
FNGs: None
COUNT: 7
80/80 – Where We Want to Go Next
See yourselves more as a team, this time on the SAME team (sometimes you’re the QB, or RB, or OL or CB, but you’re still always trying to win together)
Thriving couples realize fairness is the OBSTACLE, not the goal
2 Dimensions of 80/80 = mindset & structure
?🤔 How would improving your marriage create a positive change in the world? Beyond the 2 of you? Or even your immediate family?

Cultivating a new mindset
50/50 = Waiting for failure
80/80 = Waiting in wonder
80/80 Mindset shifts (more detail in next chapters)
👉what you do
👉what you see
👉what you say
As you begin, you will hit these traps:
🕸Inequality Phobia
Solution = Embrace the Suck (Thanks F3!)
🕸Never would my partner ever do the same
Solution = Do your same chores, but this time with a spirit of generosity

SPOUSEWORK for this week:
1. Notice when you are in 80/20 or 50/50
2. 3 deep breaths
3. Think to yourself “80/80” or “radical generosity”

Next week = Magnolia Q; definitely Ch.5; possibly Ch. 6